As a personal development trainer, many of the tweens and teens I ‘talk’ to tell me that no one is listening. I find them desperate to talk, to off load and to express themselves but that is because I am neither their parent or their teacher. I am a neutral person, someone not related to home or school. I have become very privileged to be the only adult to hear some very personal life experiences of some wonderful kids. They come to me sad, angry, hostile, fed up or in the middle of some teenage angst or drama, or a very real family or personal life experience that they need support to cope with.
What does real listening look like? I have learnt through the years that there are four parts to every teenager told story and there is a definite skill involved in getting to the final (and real) part. It takes time, commitment and a lot of deep care from a very calm, present adult. This adult needs to offer a safe, non-threatening...
We have the power to change the way we react to a situation.
How to Manage Emotions
People need to learn how to manage their feelings and emotions.
Each time someone becomes angry or upset they make a choice to either cope with those feelings or react to them.
It takes a lot of self control and self discipline to calm down again after something has triggered someone to become angry or upset. Parents and teachers need to ‘teach’ children how to manage their feelings and emotions rather than punishing them for having them.
Many adults also need to learn how to manage their feelings appropriately. Children learn from what we do more than what we say!
Emotion Traffic Lights For Children
Red Zone Feelings: Out of control – a volcanic eruption!
When a child is in red zone they are not utilising the rational part of their brain. They are not in control of themselves. They may be frightened of themselves and:...